For the Newbies (Domme or sub)

First, we were all new at some point. Take time to read and understand this lifestyle. There are blogs, forums, books, websites, a plethora of information. Ask questions, there are many that will be helpful. Second, for the ladies, this is not always quick easy money. "Fuck you, pay me" rarely works. It takes time to build a rapport with a sub. Beautiful women are a dime a dozen, what makes you stand out? What will draw that perfect little piggy to you? I know for myself, I am a middle-aged BBW, I have that mommy figure appeal. It works for me, because it is who I am. Watch what you write. Errors in spelling and grammar happen, but if they are constant, does that make you appear superior? Many of these pigs are powerful business men, do you think they want a bargain basement Sally? No, they want to worship at the feet of a Goddess. Look at how you present yourself in pictures. Is the room behind you messy or dirty, do you look like a goddess or cheap, are you in a dominant or submissive pose? If you cannot show your face, do not expect people to believe you are real. Take these into consideration. A few minutes of thought make a difference. Males are visual creatures, they are more likely to initially tribute based on a picture prior to your words and personality. Third, BE YOURSELF!!!!!! Be real, pigs and princesses have been around long enough to know when a man or woman is playing a part rather than showing his/her true colours. Realness works. Fourth, pigs, never promise anything you are not really going to give! A small tribute or gift to get a princess's attention is smart , of course, a big tribute or gift is better. Look at the Domme's wish list, I am sure you are itching to send something to make her smile. Dommes, if you state you cannot pay your bills, does this make you appear dominant? Life happens and expenses can be tough at times, but really these pigs are here to enhance our superior lives. Sugar baby sites are a better fit for some women and there is no shame in that. Know what you are. Do not make the "promise" of being a Domme, when in fact, you are a sugar. Be willing to verify you are real. Pigs this is done with tribute. Dommes this is done with a picture, camming, or in rare occasions, phone calls. Fifth, HAVE FUN!!!! Why do anything you do not enjoy? A princess will do what she wants, whatever whim pleases her. The right pig will appreciate what makes her happy, the ones that do not, can move along. The correct Domme/sub relationship is wonderful and beneficial to both. Good luck in your search/life path.